Your dating profile is your resume for dating.
People complain on their profiles stating "I don't know why I'm bothering with this, no one read's profiles anyway" … But this is simply not true.
People interested in quality do read profiles. Life reads your profile. Your profile is an announcement to life, letting it know what you’re ready for. A clear, concise, direct, fun profile leads to great dates, new friendships and quite possibly the partner of your dreams.
If your dating profile is incomplete, not clear, poorly written or full of bathroom mirror shots- the byproduct of the dates you get (or don’t get) will reflect how serious you’re taking the endeavor.
Here’s a short list of some important things to pay attention to for online dating:
1. Fill out your profile as honest and as accurate as possible. This is the only chance you may ever have to catch the eye of the person you may spend the rest of your life with. Share thoughtfully, consider who IS reading.
2. No bathroom mirror shots or old photos. They’re tacky and leave the impression that you don’t have friends, or care about yourself. No one wants to date someone they feel sorry for. Get a $5.00 selfie stick.
3. Even if you’re not a great writer, it’s ok. Write at least one quality paragraph about yourself. Anyone bored in a coffee shop will help you edit if you’re not confident with your writing skills. Buy someone a coffee and get another set of eyes on your paragraph. Remember, your words are announcing your dateability to the world, give it some effort.
4. Initiate conversation. If you expect the other person to make the first move, don’t. In a world where men and women are becoming equal (or at least that’s what us ladies say we want, except when it comes to dating- apparently) we are as capable of initiating conversation as much as the guys. Afterall, we want to be equals, right? Don’t wait for someone else to make the first move.
5. Respond thoughtfully. If someone messages you and it doesn’t feel right, thank the person and move along. Sending messages back and forth if someone isn’t a good fit is a waste of energy and time. Use your time and energy for a good match.
6. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. Yes, this applies to all aspects of life and is also relevant when it comes to dating. Online dating is fun, but it’s not a game. People’s emotions and lives are affected. Don’t mess with people.
7. Once you are on a date, enjoy yourself. Chill out. Do your best to connect with the person in front of you. Even if you don’t wind up with this person for the rest of your life, still use this opportunity to hone your people and networking skills.
8. TRUST YOUR GUT… If someone isn’t a good match, you can feel it. This may happen before ever even meeting someone in person. If something doesn’t feel right (right away) it’s time to end it. Don’t linger if things don’t feel like they’ll work. Stay safe and avoid dangerous situations. Trust your gut.
9. Put your phone away. If you’re more interested in your phone than the person you’re with, just end the date. You’re not being present or giving the person the respect they deserve. You're either not feeling it, or you’re not ready to date. Either way, move along.
10. Be present, meet cool people, have fun. Most of all, dating is about you learning how to more deeply connect with yourself and others. It’s an opportunity to grow, use it as such. This approach will not only help you become a more content human being, but you’ll eventually meet someone as great as you out there.
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There’s an exceptional unfolding of excellence taking place, right now. It’s been present all along, but we’re human, thinkers. We think ourselves out of excellence and forget that more is well than not. We lose sight of how truly in-place and perfectly positioned we are at all times. We don’t see the glory when we’re staring at the wall.
With every encounter, every failure, every success, every skidded knee, every collapse, every sickness, there’s bigger opportunity than we usually take time to appreciate. Afterall, no one thinks that the bully in 4th grade might have done us a favor until we’re grown up and reference how being bullied was actually the fire that propelled us into living a stronger life.
Failure is Fuel. It’s the stuff that gifts us the opportunity to reevaluate and take inventory of ourselves in relationship to our life. When we do things out of alignment we eventually become drained. Spending time doing things out of alignment has the eventual effect of “burn out”. Then, we’re left to sit with ourselves again. At this point we can do an instant replay, or shift into something different.
By staying in the struggle we feed it and get more of it. However, there’s always another option… This is where the power of positive thinking really lends itself to life.
We continue getting similar results if we approach challenges the way we always have before. To revamp and realign with living a more successful, healthy, prosperous life with remarkable relationships, we can’t do things the same way we always have.
When I interview successful CEO’s of growing companies, they always mention the same thing, “Take Calculated Risks.” Risk doing something different than you have before. Put a unique spin on what you do. Take baby steps. Take a giant leap. Practice patience. Whatever you normally do, attempt the opposite. Give yourself permission to step outside of your own comfort zone and risk what you thought you knew. Maybe you’ll fall. Maybe you become wildly successful. If you keep doing things the same, you’ll never know.
Engage with life. It’s available. It’s waiting for you to align with it and bring forth what your gift is to the world.
Don’t sit on the sidelines and wait to be called to play. Tell the coach how ready you are. Tell life how excited you are to get out there and make the most of it. Do your best and you will grow.
True wealth is not the money. Money just fuels the great things truly wealthy, happy, healthy people can do in the world.
Make today worth living. It’s in your hands.