Your dating profile is your resume for dating.
People complain on their profiles stating "I don't know why I'm bothering with this, no one read's profiles anyway" … But this is simply not true.
People interested in quality do read profiles. Life reads your profile. Your profile is an announcement to life, letting it know what you’re ready for. A clear, concise, direct, fun profile leads to great dates, new friendships and quite possibly the partner of your dreams.
If your dating profile is incomplete, not clear, poorly written or full of bathroom mirror shots- the byproduct of the dates you get (or don’t get) will reflect how serious you’re taking the endeavor.
Here’s a short list of some important things to pay attention to for online dating:
1. Fill out your profile as honest and as accurate as possible. This is the only chance you may ever have to catch the eye of the person you may spend the rest of your life with. Share thoughtfully, consider who IS reading.
2. No bathroom mirror shots or old photos. They’re tacky and leave the impression that you don’t have friends, or care about yourself. No one wants to date someone they feel sorry for. Get a $5.00 selfie stick.
3. Even if you’re not a great writer, it’s ok. Write at least one quality paragraph about yourself. Anyone bored in a coffee shop will help you edit if you’re not confident with your writing skills. Buy someone a coffee and get another set of eyes on your paragraph. Remember, your words are announcing your dateability to the world, give it some effort.
4. Initiate conversation. If you expect the other person to make the first move, don’t. In a world where men and women are becoming equal (or at least that’s what us ladies say we want, except when it comes to dating- apparently) we are as capable of initiating conversation as much as the guys. Afterall, we want to be equals, right? Don’t wait for someone else to make the first move.
5. Respond thoughtfully. If someone messages you and it doesn’t feel right, thank the person and move along. Sending messages back and forth if someone isn’t a good fit is a waste of energy and time. Use your time and energy for a good match.
6. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. Yes, this applies to all aspects of life and is also relevant when it comes to dating. Online dating is fun, but it’s not a game. People’s emotions and lives are affected. Don’t mess with people.
7. Once you are on a date, enjoy yourself. Chill out. Do your best to connect with the person in front of you. Even if you don’t wind up with this person for the rest of your life, still use this opportunity to hone your people and networking skills.
8. TRUST YOUR GUT… If someone isn’t a good match, you can feel it. This may happen before ever even meeting someone in person. If something doesn’t feel right (right away) it’s time to end it. Don’t linger if things don’t feel like they’ll work. Stay safe and avoid dangerous situations. Trust your gut.
9. Put your phone away. If you’re more interested in your phone than the person you’re with, just end the date. You’re not being present or giving the person the respect they deserve. You're either not feeling it, or you’re not ready to date. Either way, move along.
10. Be present, meet cool people, have fun. Most of all, dating is about you learning how to more deeply connect with yourself and others. It’s an opportunity to grow, use it as such. This approach will not only help you become a more content human being, but you’ll eventually meet someone as great as you out there.
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